Weekly Wins 58: How to Start the Year with Clarity and Purpose: A Guide for Neurodiverse Families

The start of a new year is full of hope, but it can also bring a sense of pressure—especially when the world around us seems to emphasise big resolutions and lofty goals. I have not set resolutions for years – I do something far more exciting and easy for my ND brain J (I’ll be talking about it in my Village this month!) For neurodiverse families, this pressure can feel overwhelming. The idea of tackling enormous changes while juggling the unique dynamics of neurodiversity can lead to anxiety and procrastination and a feeling of failure from the get go of the year.

But what if we approached the new year differently? Instead of focusing on resolutions, which are often abandoned by February, we can set intentions—gentle guideposts based in our values and what matters most.

Why Intentions Work for Neurodiverse Families:

Intentions are about aligning your actions with your family’s values, not about achieving perfection. They offer flexibility, which is critical for neurodiverse families, where each day can look different depending on energy levels, sensory needs, or unexpected challenges.

Unlike rigid resolutions, intentions allow space for exploration and growth. They aren’t focused on outcomes but on direction—giving you a way to move forward without feeling boxed in. For example, instead of saying, “We’ll stick to a strict bedtime routine every night,” an intention might be, “We’ll prioritize restful evenings whenever possible.”

What Does an Intentional Year Look Like?

An intentional year is about creating a foundation of purpose for your family. It’s about defining what matters most and allowing that to shape your choices. Perhaps it’s a year focused on connection—where you prioritise family time over external obligations. Or maybe it’s a year of growth, where everyone works on learning something new at their own pace.

Intentions also encourage reflection, helping you understand the “why” behind your actions. For neurodiverse families, this reflection is particularly important, as it allows you to see what’s working and what needs adjustment.

Why It’s Worth Taking the Time:

Starting the year with clarity and purpose sets a tone for the months ahead. It helps reduce overwhelm by focusing your energy on what truly matters. It also creates a sense of empowerment because you’re choosing your path rather than reacting to the demands of life.

As you step into the new year, take a moment to think about your family’s values and how they can guide your intentions. Instead of chasing resolutions, try aligning with what feels meaningful. Progress, not perfection, is the goal. What intention will guide your family this year?